Thursday, February 25, 2010

high five!

So today was just a day. i thought i would list five highlights though. so here they are in no particular order.
1) Timber had his butt changed in the middle of the mercedes parking lot. Yup there we were, outside our so non mercedes car, pants down around the ankles, hinney covered in stinky, for all the elite car purchasers to adore. what can i say, you do what you gotta.
2) we stayed in our p.j.'s all day. well mostly all day. it was p.j. day at music class and the kids sported them all around town. i did however throw a pair of jeans on after class.
3) i did a 40 minute run tonight. haven't ran in months. i have become a spin and weight class junkie and forgot about my out door running shoes. it was fun mostly, except for the odd giant puddle or ice patch. it was especially cute that timber would call for the dog whenever she was out of sight.
4) i am less than 24 hours away from an all husband, no children weekend!
5) visited buns and roses organic bakery today and had a deliciously nutritious cookie before signing up at deliahs for an entire years worth of waxing appointments.
*BONUS; i mindfully chose self control today when offered chocolate biscuits at the care centre. and believe i was pretty gentle with the children today as well. gold star for me.
i hear the pillow calling early tonight. in fact it is practically screaming my name. so i off i go . sweet dreams.
Blog Goal is to post photo's of our household accomplishments and details of our fun filled weekend.

Tuesday, February 23, 2010

counting down

3 sleeps until it is all over! Jereme will be done school for good. Well for good with this trade, and he will be home and our lives can return to the kaos that we call normal. as opposed to the insanity that is life now. we are planning on having a kid free weekend and getting stuff done around the house. We will go to a movie, out to eat and such, but we want to get some spring cleaning done too.
I have completed my first month at my new job and think i have fared okay. i only see it getting better so that is a plus. that means i need to give notice at the cup. and that will be a bit tough, but i clearly can not continue on there. i have to grow up now. and it is really not healthy in so many ways. lots of temptations. so count down to quitting time too i guess.
and there are 30 something days left in my lent journey to gentleness and self control. this has proven to be just as difficult as i had hoped it wouldn't be. maybe i am destined to a life of being a harsh self indulgent woman! no strike that, i am: gentle, i can use self control, i will succeed!
i am sleepy and i don't have anything all that exciting to say, just wanted to let all you devote followers to know i am alive and (pretty) well.
peace

Thursday, February 18, 2010

flowers for hadassah

usually on the 18th of february, at least the previous 2, we have gone as a family to pick out flowers for hadassah. to remember her short life and to celebrate her going to heaven day. I actually have come to look forward to it and find that it brings me some comfort and peace. a few weeks ago jereme and i talked briefly about today and what we would do since he wasn't going to be around. and i think amongst all the stress he was kinda hoping to just put it on the back burner. i can't say i judge him for this, i can understand not wanting to remember sometimes. but i do remember and i want to take time to do so. i didn't know what i would do about getting flowers and to be honest, i didn't put much focus into it today. i did think of the significance of today and i am taking a moment to remember our child gone too soon, but there are not flowers for haddy on our table this evening. and i am not sure how i feel about that.

Wednesday, February 17, 2010

ash's to ash's

the season is upon us. Lent. wikipedia (where would be with out wiki?) says;
"Lent, in Christian tradition, is the period of the liturgical year leading up to Easter. The traditional purpose of Lent is the preparation of the believer — through prayer, penitence, almsgiving and self-denial — for the annual commemoration during Holy Week of the Death and Resurrection of Jesus, which recalls the events linked to the Passion of Christ and culminates in Easter, the celebration of the Resurrection of Jesus Christ."
and continue on by saying; "There are traditionally forty days in Lent which are marked by fasting, both from foods and festivities, and by other acts of penance. The three traditional practices to be taken up with renewed vigour during Lent are prayer (justice towards God), fasting (justice towards self), and almsgiving (justice towards neighbour). Today, some people give up a vice of theirs, add something that will bring them closer to God, and often give the time or money spent doing that to charitable purposes or organizations."
So i have concluded that i should do something for God, for self, and for neighbour. This is tricky. last year i gave up sweets and though it was challenging, it was pretty straight forward and achievable. This year i wanted to do something that would require me to lean more on the LORD.

i tossed around a few idea's, and think i have come up with the following. to strive for gentleness and self control. that has been an aim of mine for quite some time so what better time to actually dive right into it?

Passage Galatians 5:23:
23 gentleness, and self-control. There is no law against these things!
Passage Colossians 3:12:
12 Since God chose you to be the holy people he loves, you must clothe yourselves with tenderhearted mercy, kindness, humility, gentleness, and patience.
Passage Proverbs 25:28:
28 A person without self-control
is like a city with broken-down walls.

gen⋅tle  [jen-tl] adjective, -tler, -tlest, verb, -tled, -tling.
–adjective
1. kindly; amiable: a gentle manner.
2. not severe, rough, or violent; mild: a gentle wind; a gentle tap on the shoulder.
3. moderate: gentle heat.
4. gradual: a gentle slope.
5. of good birth or family; wellborn.
6. characteristic of good birth; honorable; respectable: a gentle upbringing.
7. easily handled or managed; tractable: a gentle animal.
8. soft or low: a gentle sound.
9. polite; refined: Consider, gentle reader, my terrible predicament at this juncture.
10. entitled to a coat of arms; armigerous.
11. Archaic. noble; chivalrous: a gentle knight.
Related forms:
gen⋅tle⋅ness, noun
gently, adverb

Synonyms:
1. clement, peaceful, pacific, soothing; tender, humane, lenient, merciful. Gentle, meek, mild refer to an absence of bad temper or belligerence. Gentle has reference esp. to disposition and behavior, and often suggests a deliberate or voluntary kindness or forbearance in dealing with others: a gentle pat; gentle with children. Meek implies a submissive spirit, and may even indicate undue submission in the face of insult or injustice: meek and even servile or weak. Mild suggests absence of harshness or severity, rather because of natural character or temperament than conscious choice: a mild rebuke; a mild manner. 3. temperate. 5. noble. 7. manageable, docile, tame, quiet. 9. courteous; polished.

self-con⋅trol  [self-kuhn-trohl, self-] Show IPA
–noun
control or restraint of oneself or one's actions, feelings, etc.
Origin:
1705–15

Related forms:
self-con⋅trolled, adjective
self-con⋅trol⋅ling, adjective

Synonyms:
self-discipline, self-restraint, willpower, levelheadedness.

So easy right? i don't think so. these are not qualities that i find come to me with ease. but oh how i long for them when i read the scriptures the desire is confirmed and when i read the definitions i year for such things like 'mild refer to an absence of bad temper or belligerence. Gentle has reference esp. to disposition and behavior, and often suggests a deliberate or voluntary kindness or forbearance in dealing with others...' this will inevitably take self control, God breathed, and that is what i am striving for. i will spend time with the Lord seeking his guidance and asking for his gentle promptings in my life over the next 40 days. And i will practice self control in all areas of my life. food, money , media, work and play. in turn i hope that i am a greater companionship to my neighbours and loved ones.
and ho did it go today? well on a score of 1-10 i would give myself a 6. I certainly was more aware of how i was not being gentle, so that is a start. and i did practice some self control.
so what about you? how do you plan to prepare for the resurrection? and no you do not have to be a catholic to practice lent.

Tuesday, February 16, 2010

but i don't hear wedding bells...

many days i have thought of wonderful posts to write. about little moments in the day, about the amount of stuff i am doing, about living in the moment or of the things i am dreaming of. but alas the duties of the week took up all the time and here we are nearly half way through another week. how the heck did that happen? i have heard myself describing my last week several times to being about as stressful as the week leading up to my wedding. and that still feels like an accurate description. and maybe not everyone had that kinds of pre-wedding week but mine was a stressful event. in fact i vividly remember my maid of honor taking a break from it all, and my mother tearing the phone out my hands and firmly speaking into it at Jereme while looking deep into my eyes and telling us to get it together and to start working as a team or she damn well was calling the whole thing off! now, was i happy about having a wedding? certainly, did i want to mary Jer? of coarse, was it a lovely exciting affair, i believe it was, but it was stressful! and that is the best description i have of the last week in my life. There were days that the moment i woke i up i immediately wished i could crawl back into bed and hide from the day. those thoughts came more at towards the end of the week and they subsided friday afternoon as i tried to 'live in the moment'. (did i mention i am taking a womens work shop on managing stress and anger while learning assertiveness and how to create healthy boundaries? well i am but that is whole different post) we talked at my workshop about living in the moment. living in the moment to me is scary. [When i live in the moment (meaning i live the way i feel at any given time,) then the people around me get hurt. my words-hurt others, my hands-hurt others, my looks-hurt others, my thoughts-hurt me. Now, i am not an unhappy person and i am not beating my family. but i do smack hands unnecessarily, forcefully place children into car seats or ram hats on heads and hands into mittens, i swear and yell and say inappropriate things, i bully my husband and tell him to leave. (okay i am being very honest here it would seem.) that is what comes to mind when i think of me living in the moment. and that scares the crap out of me. i try very hard not to live in the moment. i try to step outside the moment and use on objectiveness when living. I have learnt to behave this way in my family of origin. neither of my parents were good at managing stress, and surprise, i am not either. BUT i am trying so very hard to learn. i do not want this for myself or for my family. (how did we get onto this topic??? my goodness.)] right! i tried living in the moment, like in the way that you take a deep breathe and enjoy what is. So i enjoyed that it was near impossible to run over this balloon floating on the road, and i enjoyed the quiet of my afternoon as i worked with out children. I rolled with the punches and made the best of things. The weekend was busy. it played out as follows, me scrapbooking friday night (way too much delicious food and not all the right photo's but 2 new friends and time with jenni) Jer kayaking tournament all weekend. Family time at the pool saturday, lunch with friends, parking ticket, work deliveries, skylar time with daddy at the pool before getting fever that lasted all weekend and into today. saturday night became sunday morning before my very eyes as i made cookies for Valentines day and chili for confirmation. both these event took place sunday and jer and i had a date. And then i expected to have a very accomplished family bonding day on family day but it ended up crappy, in the very literal sense, as jer and i had a flu bug or something and ended up having to cut our family day activities with the milners short and opt out of davies family fun all together. BLAGH! today was a bit of an unaccomplished day and tomorrow is only a mere 40 minutes away and has yet to be prepared for. so i had better cut this off. it s kind of a rambling any ways, but i was kind of going for a ramble any how.
tobogganing before we knew how sick we were...





blog goal=lent

Tuesday, February 9, 2010

mountains(not mole hills)

so i sat down and thought about doing my blog and then my blog rounds.(visiting my favorite blog reads.) BUT i made a commitment to do my work first! ah ha! and i did a full hour so i think that deserves a break. it was easier than i anticipated. it would appear i had made a mountain out of a mole hill so to speak. but as promised, i am telling of my canmore trip with mom and the kids. we went the first week after new years for 5 days. it was a nice break and besides that fact that i hauled all my scrap booking stuff there only to discover i had forgotten all my photo's (monumentally earth shattering to me at the time,) i had a lovely time eating way too much and experiencing mountain life mostly from the car b/c of the frigidness of the mountain winds. we took the kids on a toboggan trip down the rail way track path, drove the kananaskis loop and went to the b.c border to allow timber maximum napping time before heading to the fairmont hotel at lake louise to skate. this was short lived as the children were much too cold. but we had a lovely little lunch at their cafe. i can not imagine having enough money to spend even a night there let alone holiday at the place as so many were. if i allow my thoughts on the subject to go much deeper then i get upset at the injustice of it all so i allow myself only to remember how lovely the soup was and that they use biodegradable dish ware. one day was spent in calgary visiting skylars allergist and attempting to play at the science centre. the hot springs were lovely and the tour of Banff was nice though cut short with the winds. we also made several attempt to spend more of our time in canmore itself but they were cut short again do to weather, children not listening, then moms cold and sleepy kids. however we ate at a lovely little restaurant and visited my favorite toy store before treking back to e-town. the timing seemed about right. i don't think we got sick of each other until the last 12 hours or so. you know, kids in a small space for too long and the only activity to stimulate them you have to create? it's wearing. So here are some of my photo's others are on moms camera so they may make an appearance at a latter date. i have to mention that having all that car time to actually see the mountains as opposed to just doing tourism in the mountains opened my heart to see a little more why it is that my husband is so in awe of them. he feels at home and close to God in the mountains, and likewise so does his daughter. i now have more understanding to how that may be. enjoy.
















Friday, February 5, 2010

here i go again...

Wow i am a blogging machine these days, okay so it's no twitter equivalent but i am busting out 3 a week it would seem. The reason for that is likely do to the fact that i am discovering how unmotivated i am. oh sure i am dependable and a hard worker, but if it is on someone else's agenda. it would appear that when it is up to me to see to it that things are happening, they don't! errr... i really should be working but the 'new post' option is calling my fingers to the keys. i took yesterday as a mental health day and then was called into 2nd cup. and try as i might to hit up the local shops this afternoon i could not resist the urge to come home to jereme and kiss him over and over again. (and that's where it stopped. honest to goodness. the man was a woman today wanting to talk and catch up. here about my week and just be close to me. seriously???) i did make it to my favorite scrap booking store though and they seemed game but i needed to go anyhow to sign up for next weeks crop. though i am so far greatly enjoying this entry, i did promise to tell of what life looks like for us, or for me. so with out further ado...

*Jereme and i will have been 'together '10'years next weekend. we first held hands and got butterflies on the 13th of february 2000. awww!
*to quote a friend;) even though i know with my whole heart that i married the right person and that i want to be with him, marriage continues to be work for us. but worth every drop of sweat and tears.
*Jereme is half way through is far off schooling and the end is in sight. he is attending RDC b/c NAIT is dumb (= they had no room an hour into registration for 4th year carpenter with a +90% average WTF?)
*we have faught every weekend he has been gone. starts saturday afternoon and ends in the wee hours of monday morning. this suck and i wish it weren't so. these emotions exhaust me.
*so while he is off being studious, i am running the ship here. it's lonely. conversations with 5 &2 year olds only stimulate so far. aside from dropping the kids off with a lovely helping friend every other day or so, i haven't had much meaningful connections these days.
*3 mornings a week i have to be out the door 1.5hrs after waking with the entire day in tow. 2 days i am off to millwoods, (the absolute opposite side of the city for me) and the other to my old stompin' grounds of riverbend. we eat a lot in the car these days. yay for muffins. i only wish i had time to bake them from scratch rather than a mix but you can't win 'em all.
*Sky has school every afternoon which is when timby naps but usually only in the car. so i use that time to visit shops.
*i try to visit with the in-laws every week to 10 days.
*i really like a tidy well organized house and that has proven to be a bit difficult these days, and sometimes that makes me crazy inside.
*i take oils and vit B to combat the craziness i feel. i hate when i am in such a tizzy to get out the door and i forget to pack them cus then i am at the mercy of my agitated self.
*my daughter has to be the BIGGEST doddler i have ever encountered. and i have been a nanny for 7 years to 6 children so i think i have some authority on the issue.
*we squabble like sisters. jereme thinks this is funny, i think it is irritating. i already have 4 sisters to squabble with.
*i really believe in home cooked meals encompassing the food groups and would like to make more home made soup in all my free time.
* i try to hit the gym @ least 3 times a week but prefer 5-6.
* spin class and group power are my fav's
*i have lost 63 pounds and kept it off for a year. i did however enjoy the X-mas season a little too much and managed to pack on 10lbs. i have been trying hard (but not my hardest) to get these pounds back off. so i am thinking about food and the like more than usual. i am also in a lot of bakeries these days with KEO.
*i know 10 doesn't sound like much, but it is a dress size and since i pro-actively disposed of all my too big clothes, i am living in leggings these days. Thank my mercies that those things are bacK in!
*i usual work saturdays at the cup and tend to pick up a shift a week on week nights.
*there is much more home work in kindergarten that i had expected and this requires my participation. i admit that i may have written out skylars sentences for her today. not frowned upon, just cautioned against.
*sundays are church days. I am usually involved in the service in one way or another be it snack helper, nursery supervisor, simpleton, or communion. and in theory we like to have family time on these days and try to include lauren in this. but that has been difficult since we haven't really been speaking the last 4 sundays.
*i have really great friends and am usually invited to hang out with them each week. i love to do this and try to make every effort to connect.
* i do the finances and event planning around here too and am usually scrambling to meet the deadlines. i would like to set it up automatically but that requires 1) that your account balance is paid on time and 2) that you have time during regular bussiness hours to set it up.
* i am part of the founding members of a group at church that meets regularly and that requires some outside involvement.
* i am desiring to spend more time in intentional prayer, especially for lauren whom i am confirmation sponsor for.
*every 6 weeks roughly we have dinner club. the highlight of my agenda!
*we also attend meetings on marriage 1/mo. these are potluck.
*get creative by scrapbooking and am so close to finishing timbers 1st year that i can taste it. hence the crop night next week.
*we do not have a t.v but watch greys anatomy and private practice (or as jer calls it, private parts) on line. i am perterbed that they have been pre-empted so often lately. this is my way of turning off.
*i also try hard to spend time meaningfully connecting with my kids either by crafting, playing, reading or cuddling. we really like to have dance parties.
*if i can resist the urge to blog then i try to respond to emails and if it is before 10p.m i will return phone calls. but i often fall asleep with the kids for an hour+ nap and then it is time to prep for the day ahead.
*if the day ahead is a friday then i spend about 30-45 minutes preparing my weight watchers meeting. which by the way i kick ass at.
*tomorrow i am home ALL DAY with no real expectations other than mexican night for dinner club. i plan to tidy up and possibly head to spin class. then i will whip up a batch of the most delicious cheese smothered nachos and head to the berki/vriends where i will eat way too much food, drink too much for a cheap drunk like me and stay out way too late for being a grown up with (obviously too many) responsibilities.

so there. that about brings us up to speed. Once jer is home from school for good with a red seal in hand, then life will surely slow down a little and i will quit at the cup. even though i part of me wants to stay. and i will head off to the mountains with my husband for a little R&R.

BLOG GOAL: next post will be on my trip with mom and the kids to canmore. with photo's! ohhhh-ahhhh!
xox

Monday, February 1, 2010

did i ever tell you???

I have all these fabulous thoughts in my mind at any given time in my day. ideas of sending cards/notes/gifts/thoughts to those i love/think/care/feel about. i think of great topics to blog about and wonderful photo's to share. i make glorious to do lists of random acts/chores/wishes/goals to accomplish. But life gets so so so full of i donno what??? of life i guess and most of these things fall to the way side. like how i am really good at starting books and getting half way through with eagerness only for them to sit with book marks or dog eared pages so long that when the time comes to pick them back up, i almost always have to start over again b/c i have gone far too long and now have no recollection of what the darn writings are about. that's annoying and i liken these other good intentions to that depiction. ahh *sigh*.
so please do forgive me if i have put you in any way on the back burner. i am the busiest person i know and usually that is okay. if i wasn't you likely wouldn't know me or interact with me in any way. b/c i would hide!
BUT i have been meaning to tell you all that i started a new job this month. (yes another one! that brings that grand total up to a wopping 4!) I am of no official title but acting as a director for (there should be a link to the keep edmonton original web site here!) the whole organization not souly the web site. as i gain more and more hours with KEO in the coming months i plan to phase out my 2nd cup job. (did you know i worked there?) Being a doula is slow these days too so that is accommodating.
I now work "from home" and have flexible hours that allow me to, more often than not, haul the kid-lets around with me. i basically am creating relationships with people and communicating the importance of local shopping and business. so perfect for me right? right!
so pass along all your favorite gems of the local world and i will add them to my list of places to encounter. in the interm, let me tell you that where you spend your money really does matter!
Now as promised, here are some photos from christmas and i am relinquishing my aspirations to post a little note or explanation with each and will resolve to just let you have them for eye candy. enjoy.







i find that if i set a blogger goal then i am more apt to accomplish it. (less intentions and more follow through.) the next blog entry, i plan to tell you all the useless info bout our lives that just might prove to be useful. i sense suddenly this need to justify the things that make up my life and it's my blog so &%$#@it i can do that ! :) sweet dreams.